About Me

My journey in life from childhood to adulthood, although experienced and felt only by me, probably has many similarities to others that have entailed emotional suffering and who sometimes struggled just to go through the motions of everyday life.

Life as a teenager is tough enough, but living with feelings of shame, worthlessness, low self-esteem, and a lot of negative perspectives from a less than perfect childhood was at times unbearable. I started using alcohol and drugs in middle school. I ran away from home several times and caused my parents a lot of grief while they were struggling to deal with their own lives. I was in and out of therapy. But therapy never did anything to help me. I had given up that therapy could help. It hadn't worked for me. I found the sessions unproductive, boring, and a waste of time.

My wake-up call was when I became pregnant at the age of 19 and realized that I had more than myself to be responsible for. I didn't care about myself, but I didn't want another person to have to suffer as I had. I was determined to turn things around.

My first self-improvement book I found called, “I'm Ok, You're Ok” helped me realize for the first time that I had a chance to fit into life as a human being deserving of anything good in life because I was ok. (However, I wouldn't recommend this book today). Having my daughter at the age of 19 was the first time I had ever felt unconditional love. That's not to say I always showed her unconditional love, but that I “felt” it. It was the most wonderful feeling I ever had and made me realize that maybe my parents felt that for me at one time. I'm not saying that my parents were bad parents, they were at their wits end with me many times trying to show me how much they loved me. For whatever reason, I felt like a worthless, ugly, shameful human being. That's not what I wanted for myself, but that's what I felt deep inside.

I made significant changes and had significant personal growth over the period of many years, though I made plenty of mistakes along the way, too. My self-help attempts didn't happen overnight, but rather came as slow journey that gradually healed the wounds of my past and moved me towards a more positive future that I now experience. I wish I would've had a site like this to guide me so I might have moved much faster. But, I believe that it all happened for a reason, and that reason may be that it brought me here to put together this website for you.

I am still growing as a human being. I have gone from perceiving myself as a nobody to knowing I'm a somebody. I love myself now. I am no longer the enemy of myself; rather I have found that I am my own best friend.

I'm very thankful for the people, things, and opportunities that have come into my life, however, I’m the one that took responsibility to give myself the self-improvement I needed. I will gladly pat myself on the back for that. I have found so many self-help gurus that have helped me along that journey, and I want to share them with you, as well as all the things I have learned from them. They always seemed to come at the right time. That's what this website is all about. While I am giving you some tools, YOU are the one that has to put in the work. Nobody is going to do it for you. In fact, people will likely try to knock you down while you are working on yourself and you have to pick yourself back up and keep going in spite of them, and sometimes in spite of yourself. It won't be easy, it will be challenging. But it will be so worth it in the end, I promise you. You can be the person you know you were meant to be!